Co-founder, Real Estate
I am co-founder and director of a private equity backed real estate development business. Since working with Thomas, my experience of life, my relationship with my family, and my performance at work have transformed. I've realised that, however I'm feeling in the moment, I'm not only more than okay, but I also have everything I need to deal with whatever life throws at me. I now trust how naturally resourceful and creative I am.
I took anxiety from my youth into my adult life, often making poor decisions leading to more worry and stress, eventually manifesting in frustration and even aggression. I was referred to therapists but, as I was constantly dragged back through my past, I was left with more questions than answers. These feelings started to consume me, both on a professional and personal level.
I first met Thomas through spinning, and was attracted to him by his extraordinary energy and beaming smile. At our first session, I felt so comfortable and understood by him that laid out all my concerns and personal challenges. Unlike at therapy, Thomas provided immediate comfort, leading to a wave of relief, warmth and love. Instead of seeing problems to be addressed, he saw my intrinsic health and how I was unwittingly getting in the way of experiencing it. During the course of our work, he has opened my heart and my mind to the way in which I perceive life and those around me, and how fluid my perspective can be when I let it flow. I've had so many insights that have shifted my mindset; changed the way I see work and life; and led me to understand the nature of thought, and the power of being present.
Thomas has pointed me towards something that anyone would benefit from. It is so beautifully simple and obvious, but I'm also sure I would have never have realised it on my own. The moments when I have felt most at peace in the last decade have been when in a session. When I feel my emotions or frustrations building again, I go back to our sessions and what I've learned.
Thomas has helped me understand how I was unintentionally creating mental stress and pressure. Now when I feel frustrated, I know where that feeling is coming from. Although I still get swept away by it from time to time, more often than not, I realise the feeling is telling me that I'm in a low state of mind and that I'm not seeing what's in front of me clearly. Whereas before I would have kept on pushing, doing far more damage than good, these days I catch it and allow everything to settle before taking action.
From this balanced mindset, invariably I know exactly what to do. This alone has had a profound impact in all areas of my life, helping me to perform better at work and allowing me to relax and enjoy time with my family when I'm at home. Thank you Thomas for finding me.
Director, Venture Capital
I have spent years trying every mental health hack, methodology, clinical support, holistic support, and mindset training app going. Some have helped, others have not, and some have even made things worse. But none have felt easy. That was the difference when I first started working with Thomas. From the first book he recommended that I read, in order to get a baseline understanding, all the way through to the final session; I never felt like I had stuff 'to do' or 'to practice' or another bloody thing 'to add to my list'. In fact, he made it all seem so easy and so obvious that it felt so ridiculous to never have seen it before.
I arrived at every session feeling like I'd found something different, something that wasn't so simple, something that would really have to be 'worked on'; whether that be work related, stress related, relationship based, or an emotional mess. Regardless, every time I left with a profound sense of relief and joy. Some days, it felt as if I was seeing the world through entirely new eyes.
Even today, looking back, I feel like a completely different person. I am by no means floating around in a constant state of bliss, and yes, occasionally I still lose track of things; however what truly matters to me, what matters in life more generally, and the way I see that life, feels more real and more sure than I ever believed possible.
As much as our work together has allowed me to feel a sense of joy at random times (something that I never thought possible without something external) more importantly, it has made life look less scary; has allowed me to just show up and be me; to not worry about everything; to do my work and be ok with it as it is, rather than stressing over it all being perfect; to contribute and speak up authentically, rather than saying what I think people want to hear; and to just get shit done. And what has surprised me is that I actually perform better as a result!
I enjoy work and life more, I don't take things so personally, and I trust myself and my abilities, which again helps my performance. Now, when I lose myself I notice so strongly how much of an effect it has on my enjoyment and performance in everything from life, to work, to relationships; and how that state of pushing to be somewhere that I thought would make all of those things better, is exactly the thing that's making it all worse!
Whilst previously I would keep pushing and fighting, I now notice so much faster what is going on, and that in itself gives me the clarity and perspective to be able to handle things better.
Partner, Strategy Consulting
When I first met Thomas, on a group hike, I suffered from anxiety, which manifested into severe health problems. Sensing my need to talk, he calmly provided the empathy and space I needed to delve into a complex tale. Later, he offered a consultation session to assess suitability and fit.
In the six months that followed, I was at a crossroads in my career and there was an important decision to be made. Thomas’s coaching helped me see the situation more clearly and navigate through it with clarity and confidence.
Thomas's coaching helped me greatly with the tough decisions I needed to make, and over time I came to appreciate how the work we did together has vast implications in every area of my life.
In terms of approach, each session was different to the one before, yet they were all true to the essence of what I was trying to achieve. Thomas would follow up on conversations with reading material and podcasts, nudging me to explore a topic in more depth.
I found Thomas truly believes in helping others. Through my career change, he applied a flexible payment plan to ensure I could deepen my understanding at my own pace and within my budget.
Eighteen months later, I remain grateful Thomas and I met. The lessons he unlocked remain a large part of my growth. He truly is a life changing coach!
CEO, Hedge Fund
Prior to working with Thomas, I was a self-confessed sceptic of "executive coaching" as, like many, I had very little knowledge of what it truly is and what it could do for me and my business. My view was "how is someone that doesn’t know anything about me or my company going to be of any use or benefit to me?"
Well I couldn’t have been more wrong…
Over a 6 month period my entire perspective on life has changed for the better. From a professional perspective, Thomas helped me realise the amount of time I was spending worrying about things and speculating about future events, and how much better this capacity can be used focussing on the PRESENT. As a CEO my job is to always think ahead, plan for what's next, and to be on the lookout for obstacles. However, there is a huge difference between dwelling and worrying about potential obstacles vs. seeing them as just one of an infinite number of possibilities; thereby removing the self-imposed stress that worried thinking creates and achieving a more balanced, considered perspective along the way. Whether it be internal issues with employees or macro level concerns, my ability to navigate and execute with this new outlook has increased significantly.
The positive impact on my personal life has been of equal significance and importance. Learning to trust in the present and quit wasting time stressing over future "ifs and buts" means that I am finally able to clear my mind and the "work life cloud" that used to hang over into my personal life. Today, this happens naturally, without effort. Before meeting Thomas, I was always guilty of having work on my mind; be it evenings, weekends or even holidays, with some perverted belief that this is what a CEO SHOULD do to run a successful company. Nothing is further from the truth and this realisation has left me feeling so much more free and clear to get on with what's essential. Ironically by NOT thinking about work during down time, my performance at work has INCREASED.
Thomas is incredible at what he does and his style is so compassionate and endearing. We quickly went from strangers to feeling comfortable discussing everything at a deep level. I couldn’t recommend working with him more highly as he will truly have a profound impact on how you perform and operate, he will transform your perspective on work and life for the better.